THE PAIN AND JOY OF AN ALCOHOLIC FAMILY
Alcoholism affects the entire family with each person experiencing his/her own private hell and giving all of us who have grown up in such families a common bond. Usually generational, behaviors are handed on down until someone is ready to break the mold. That person becomes an overcomer.
The old saying “love is blind” is really true in my case. I felt Hank drank while we were dating because he was lonely and things would change after we were married. I also felt he only drank when we went out to different functions and not at home. It was never anything we did together. Being allergic to alcohol, I never joined in his drinking.
Hank was very good at talking. I knew he could talk me in circles. He would be late and it was my fault! I actually apologized! Nuts! It didn’t matter at the time. I was in love and he was someone I felt needed me to take care of him. I still remember the exact moment that thought came to me. I would be able to fill that loneliness he was experiencing and then he wouldn’t need to drink and I would be happy doing something for someone.